I'm not really one for negative woe is me kinds of posts, but in the interest of keepin' it real I thought I would share this post. Yesterday was a blissful day with my little lady; she was well mannered, fun, and content. Today she opened her eyes at 6am with a list of demands as long as her arm right from the get go.
This morning I took her to a kids gymnastics class, it was right up her alley. Lots of jumping and activities to use up all of her energy. However, she had a one track mind and refused to participate in any of the group activity and wanted to do her own thing. Usually, I wouldn't mind as I love letting her find her own rhythm. Today however, I was being asked repeatedly by the instructors to stop allowing her to jump on the equipment until the group was participating too. It didn't matter how many times I asked her and tried to focus her attention on something else, she continued to do the opposite of what I was asking. For the first time in my parenting journey so far I was forced to really follow through with my own threats, I told her we would go home (only 5 minutes into the class) if she did not start cooperating. She ignored me, I counted to three and asked her to come down off the equipment on three, she ignored me. I finally picked her up calmly, grabbed our belongings and walked her outside whilst she was kicking and screaming the house down. I was humiliated, she was in a coughing/crying uncontrollable fit. I tried to put her into the car but she fought me. It was boiling hot, I'm pregnant and quite frankly exhausted. My only option was to stop trying.
I held her close, she stopped fighting and the sobbing stopped. She put her head on my shoulder and once she had calmed down I explained to her why we had to leave. She said "I'm sorry Mumma" and a million tonnes of guilt fell on my shoulders. She finally let me buckle her into her car seat, we put the aircon on and had a muffin together in the car (this was all before 10am). We then went to visit my grandparents, of course the happenings of earlier in the morning were already a distant memory to Savanna and now she had an audience. We sat down to have lunch with my grandparents, I brought a packed lunch for Savanna but she wasn't interested. I told my grandparents, it's ok she will eat when she is ready. She isn't hungry yet. Of course, that doesn't sit well with their generation. They continued to offer her different foods to what I had packed. I told them again, that it was ok and she would eat when she got hungry. As soon as I walked out of the room they started offering her sugary biscuits, even though she had not eaten any lunch yet. At that point I couldn't take much more and I blew up. After explaining to my grandparents time and time again that savanna has a sensitivity to gluten and does not react well to refined sugar because her body is not used to it they still went behind my back and offered it to her. Of course, I couldn't then take the biscuits off her so I had to sit and watch as she consumed (and enjoyed) the biscuits. I over reacted and raised my voice at my grandmother, even worse in front of my daughter. I was then overcome with a billion tonnes more guilt on my shoulders. Finally when I calmed down I explained to my grandmother (for the millionth time) why she can't eat those things, even though small amounts may not effect her there is absolutely no need to give it to her when I always have healthy alternatives with me. I had already told Savanna that she could have a choc bliss ball after she ate lunch, but they overrided that by giving her those biscuits. When we left my little lady was deflated, she still hadn't eaten lunch and was so tired. As soon as we got in the car and started driving she said "I'm hungry Mumma, I need some lunch". I left the aircon running in the car and pulled over to the side of the road and let her eat her lunch in the car. She ate her choc bliss ball too once she was finished, just as promised and finally fell asleep on the way home.
It's still only 2pm and I have endured my worst parenting day to date and now that I reflect on it all and have calmed down, it really wasn't that bad after all. I got through it, my little lady will wake from her nap and be ready to play and cuddle and love again. I apologised for raising my voice to my grandmother and I hugged her tight before I drove away. It's just another day in my parenting journey that I can tick off. Nobody said it would be easy, but it sure is worth it.
Superfood Triple Choc Bliss Balls (thermomix recipe but can easily be adapted to a regular food processor):
Process in a food processor or TMX (20 secs, Speed 9)
80g Almonds
30g Pumpkin Seeds
- scrape down bowl so all the nut and seed meal is at the bottom of the bowl.
Add in the following:
1 heaped tablespoon Hemp Seeds
140g Pitted organic Medjool dates
15g (1 heaped tablespoon) Nutraorganics Berry Choc Chunk powder
15g Raw Cacao
35g Desiccated Coconut
1 tablespoon Chia Seeds
50g Coconut Oil
- process on speed 9 for 20 seconds
add 50g mini dairy free dark chocolate chips (I use Enjoy Life brand)
- process on speed 1 for 15 seconds
Roll into balls and coat with desiccated coconut, keep refrigerated.
Love & Gratitude
Assunta
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